by LT | Aug 11, 2020 | Business, Leadership, Parenting, Podcast, Self Development
Leadership is a transfer of beliefs. That is why it is crucial your team needs these four words from you. I believe in you. When you believe in them, they begin to believe in themselves and amazing things happen.
“People imagine, and people believe; and it is that rock solid belief, that makes things happen.” – Neil Gaiman
“The fact is, you do not believe what you see, but rather, you see what you already believe. Your deeply held beliefs distort your worldview and cause you to see things not the way they are but the way you are.” Brian Tracy
The Wallet Thief
Yes, it’s still 2020. The year where nothing is crazy because everything is crazy. Our daughter graduated college and unfortunately did not get to walk with her classmates and our son turned 16 and couldn’t get his license because the DMV was closed. Imagine all that excitement you had leading up until your sweet 16. Counting down the days, planning where that first road trip will take you and the poof gone. Yes, worse things have happened during the pandemic, but when you are 16 not being able to get your freedom is pretty tragic especially when you have your sights on a girl who is a senior and can drive and today things are different.
These kids do everything officially harder. When I was 16 if you went on a date and then went on a second date you were pretty much a couple. Today, there has to be a plan. Have you seen the promposals? So, my son plans to take her hiking for the day and when he finds the perfect romantic spot he will ask her to be his girlfriend. The same kid who won’t take the extra effort to bend over and put the dish in the dishwasher instead of on the counter is going through this effort for a girl.
The two are at the park all day. It was probably a very nice escape for them, except when my husband called to check in our son told him that his wallet was gone. Now when you are 16 pretty much everything you own fits in a wallet. He was devastated and when he got home there were a lot of accusations about the supposed wallet thief. Someone lifted it out of my backpack, someone took it spiraling down into a dark negative place and I said Sean you have to believe that people are good. No one wants to keep your wallet you will get it back. It’s like a switch went off. Instantly, he was telling himself a new story. A great person found my wallet and is trying to get it back to me.
What we believe about people is what we see in people.
What we believe about people is what we see in people. If we want to see something more from people, we don’t go to them and say “I need this from you” – sometimes that is the answer, but first you have to check your beliefs about a person. Do I believe that they are doing the best they can? Do I believe they want to do a good job? What am I seeing in this person that reflects my beliefs?
If you lead others now what do you believe about your team?
by LT | Mar 30, 2020 | Business, Diet, Home Renovations, Parenting, Running, Self Development
The gift of time was given to us all by stay-at-home orders. It may have been a 30 minute commute each way (plus putting on pants time). Or, like in the case 3.3 million others, all of your time because you are now unemployed. Watching my friends, family, and former coworkers adjust to this gift it is much like watching different people win the lottery. Some blow their winnings right away and end up worse off then they were beforehand. Others are paralyzed with fear so do nothing, and some embrace the gift, seize the opportunity and look at how to use the gift for good.
“Time is what we want most, but what we use worst.” William Penn
No more excuses!
As a business and personal coach I have worked with hundreds of people who say they want growth. The number one thing getting in their way? You guessed it, time. They want to be healthier, but they don’t have time. They want to learn a new skill, but can’t find time. In fact, lists of wants continue to grow and yet people do not. “I’d love to read books, listen to podcasts, take a course, or even go back to school, but I can’t find the time”, they say. Here it is. The gift of time was given to you. 5 hours a week minimum. No more excuses!
“The way we spend our time defines who we are.” Jonathan Estrin
How will you reflect back on this time? With pride of your accomplishments and contributions? Yesterday was the best time to start. Today is a great time to start. Tomorrow . . . next week . . . . Start small and build. Small improvements over time are like compounded interest. They grow into something large.
Staying at home as been difficult, certainly regret is worse. Don’t let another moment pass. This is your time. Take that first step. You can do this. Yes you can!
by LT | Mar 24, 2020 | Business, Diet, Fitness, Home Renovations, Parenting, Running, Self Development
You’ve been ordered to Stay at Home; the question is do you see it as an obligation or an opportunity? It’s a challenging time, absolutely. I live in a state that has a Stay at Home Order AND the company I worked for and adored my entire adult life has just gone out of business
. The challenge is real AF. Here’s the truth about challenges. They bring about a world of choices. In fact, they are the proverbial fork in the road. They provide an opportunity for us to rise and see what we are really made of. Is this Stay at Home Order an excuse to watch all of those missed sitcoms or is it an opportunity to discover what you are capable of achieving.
It’s a choice and you have the power to make that choice right now. Is there something have you been putting off because your “real life” is too busy? Perhaps this slow down is the sign you have been waiting for. Choices you make right now, what you choose to accomplish in the next few weeks could have a significant positive impact on your life and the lives of others?
“If it doesn’t challenge you ; it won’t change you.” I encourage you to rise to the challenge. Push yourself to give your all in tackling a problem or issue and accomplishing a goal.
Here are my big 3 for doing something new
- FREE – there are many free options out there. Leave your resources open to trying many new things and don’t spend any money unless you’re absolutely sure of the path you’ve chosen. Here are some free resources for a variety of topics
- Fitness Nike Training Club
- Education Coursera
- Podcasting Buzzsprout
- Write a book Jerry Jenkins
- Create a website Wix
- Learn a new language
- FUN – as I mentioned earlier, the challenge is real AF, but it can be fun and be self-fulfilling. In business we sometimes have to ask ourselves “is it the plan or is it the execution?” You will have to ask yourself “is this not fun because it’s not coming easy or is this not fun simply because I just don’t like it?” Find something your passionate about and the challenge will become fun.
- FRIEND – find people with like interests to encourage you along the way. An easy way to do this is to search social media pages liked LinkedIn and Facebook for groups. Last year, I found that joining a FB group for the Chicago Marathon made my training experience more enjoyable by knowing I was doing it alone. Many challenges I was experiencing were common and even minor compared to people with the same goals as mine. This kept me motivated and inspired to keep going.
You will get through this. Yes you can!