Before I hit the spellcheck button I realized that I had a typo. Instead of entering “negativity” I had typed in “nagativity”. Reading the sentence the mistake almost made more sense than the original. How interesting, right?
Nag – to annoy by persistent faultfinding, complaints, or demands.
What I was really describing was undesirable conversation intended to bring others down by spewing a series of erroneous faultfinding complaints – NAGativity.
I love the word, but I have no time for it. There is no purpose in it except to bring others down. Stay away from it and certainly do not encourage it. People who engage in it are usually at a loss for their own vision and want to keep others from following theirs. Keep your vision in sight and stay away from nagativity.
After a super successful holiday weekend, I went to work yesterday feeling really great. Sales are up – yeah us!!!! Then the seagull flew by. You know the one. The one that dumps on you and flies away. “you’ll never guess what so-and-so said to so-and-so this weekend about what you are doing”. Ah! I was seething. Super pissed.
I went back to my office, plopped down in my chair, ready to blow up so-and-so with my heat ray vision when I saw the plaque. Sitting on my desk is a plaque with my mission, my vision and my one word. I re-read my vision, “Be smart enough to try, brave enough to fail, and humble enough to learn.” and all was well in the world. I am driven by a purpose. My vision guides my actions and guides me towards my goals.
There will always be naysayers trying to get in your way, but if you know where you are going (mission) and know how you are going to get there (vision) the naysayers, at most, will only be a noisy distraction. Their negativity can not pull you down and they can’t stop you from achieving your goals.
Make sure to have your mission and vision in writing and place it where you can see it every day.
After feeling silly for not planning well for my distance run yesterday I had to redeem myself by going to the one place that always makes you feel like you can do anything; Home Depot. I’ve always liked Home Depot, but I only found out after buying a table saw this year just how empowered a DIY can make you feel. Depending on the project, I dare even say the sense of accomplishment comes close to the feeling of crossing the finish line of a marathon.
Today’s project wasn’t that big, but the pride in coming up with my own solution was the confidence boost I needed. Just in time too because I didn’t know I was going to have to remove a dead fish AND a dead bird from my backyard. Yuck!
What do you do to build your confidence?
I had my tunes all set for 10 miles of trails and road. I had the proper shoes and clothing for the distance run with hundreds of feet of vertical climb and 4 flights of stairs at the 7 mile mark. But I forgot the Glide. Ouch!
I should be feeling like I can do anything. Like Queen of the World. Instead, I feel like that chipmunk I saw that didn’t make it across the road. In failing to properly plan for a 10 mile run I had planned to fail. Too much friction with no protection. This will not feel good tomorrow. I really should have spent a little extra time planning.
What accomplishment could you have felt better about if you had spent more time planning?